I love working with people who have the courage to face their problems and who are willing to take action to shape their lives and their relationships. They push through their discomfort, and keep their fearful inner voice in check, and just like you, deep down they understand that the way out of the pain, the fights and the uncertainty they have endured is to work through it. Once they understand the true value of their relationships, the difficulties they endured and the sacrifices they made to maintain and grow them fade to insignificance.
I believe that families are the most important social structure we have today, and the couple relationships are its cornerstone. Family relationships not only foster our sense of belonging and security in the present, they also shape the future relationships of the next generation. Kids and even young adults learn about marriage and relationships through observation, so what gets taught is not what was explained, but what was demonstrated.
The quality of our relationships define much of our personal life satisfaction, and sets the tone for our family. This is unique for each family, and it becomes their unspoken norm. This tone works unnoticed behind the scene to provide an emotional context for interpreting life events and the world. It also sets the course for the children's future relationships and family success. What we do in our relationships today has an almost infinite ripple effect into the future. The experiences and memories others will have of us and of our relationship with them, will later form the emotional baseline that guides them internally in their relationships just as your memories of your past relationships have guided you.
My mission and purpose for Sea-Change Counseling Services is to help couples build lifelong thriving relationships and to guide them through their relational Sea-Change as they learn to use the ways of the relationship-masters to build marriages that keep getting better with time. My hope is that with better relationship skills, couples can connect deeper and that the ripple effect of their relationship will not only benefit them personally, but also impact the people in their families and circle of influence.
Recently, my wife and I celebrated our twentieth anniversary, and we have been raising our three teenage boys for almost as long. I feel very fortunate that our marriage is working well now, because I must admit that I came into it very uninformed and things were not looking so great in the first few years. As we both struggled to figure things out, we found great guidance and learned the skills for building relationships and over time learned how be married. During these last two decades, I sometimes felt that I was going through a never-ending school of hard knocks. Our relationship had to withstand the strains of marital discords and parenting challenges while going to grad school and working, and over the years, I gained a lot of appreciation for how challenging it can be to balance the demands of the outside world with the needs of my family and to still remember who I was as a person at the end of the day. But, regardless of how hard I thought I had it, many others around me faced much more difficult challenges and often they had to carry on without the family support I enjoyed. This brought into focus the important role that my relationships and my family plays in my life and overall resilience, and how difficult everything can become when the relational part of my life isn't working well.
Relationships sometimes become complicated and difficult, and it feels like the whole world is closing in and everything is falling apart. This is very unpleasant, but not a problem as long as it is recognized, addressed, and resolved. But, if things don't get better for a while, those drifting and unraveling feelings start to dictate our relational reality and things really do start falling apart. I witnessed this process many times as a clinician, and these experiences made me a passionate advocate for strong marriages and close families. They also thought me that sometimes getting outside help is not just a good thing to do, but it may be absolutely necessary to get things back on track.
I would like to offer the sum of what I have learned from years of schooling, research and study, from working with couples in therapy, as well as through the trials of my own marriage. I want to share with you the proven methods of the relationship masters that helped me in my marriage, to help you with your relationship and get the most effective and best solution for your personal situation.
I became interested in mental health when I became a firefighter and started working with critical incident stress response teams in Florida in the early nineties. I was an undergrad music and psychology student and worked my way through college as a firefighter EMT. Working at the firehouse and in the emergency room gave me a chance to learn first hand about traumatic experiences and the impact it can have on peoples lives and their relationships. Later, I served 4 years in the Army at Ft Stewart and since then I have been involved with both the educational and response aspects of critical incident stress management and resilience training for first responders and military personnel as part of the Savannah Critical Incident Stress Response Team. I had the opportunity to work with both inpatient and outpatient clients in substance abuse recovery, as well with adolescent clients with behavioral and family issues.
After finishing my MA in Professional Counseling in 2006, I worked with individuals and couples in a university counseling setting and with premarital couples in a church ministry. I earned my Doctorate in marriage and family counseling, and started my private practice, Sea-Change Counseling Services, where I primarily help premarital and married couples build lifelong relationships, and help clients work through trauma and PTSD.
I am still a Fire Captain with the Savannah Fire Department and I now split my time between the firehouse and the counseling office. When I'm not working, I enjoy spending time with my family, trying new restaurants, woodworking, and pursuing my lifelong obsession with sailing and messing about with boats.
Marital and Premarital counseling·
Relationship issues / Parenting concerns·
Trauma and PTSD·
Men's Issues ·
Anxiety and Mood Disorders
A free 15 minute phone consultation is available to all new clients. The consult provides an opportunity to discuss the specifics of your situation, it gives you a chance to see if it seems like we will be able to work well together, and it is a good time to ask questions or discuss concerns about how therapy can help.
Schedule a free 15 minute initial phone consultation today!
Appointments can be reserved online at any time 24/7. Online scheduling supports appointment requests that are 3 days or more in the future. For more immediate availability, please call (912) 777-9842.