You Are In The Right Place
If you are concerned about your marriage and find it increasingly difficult to relate to your spouse, or if it feels like you drifted apart over the years and you are afraid that it may be too late to get your relationship back on track, you are not alone.
Relationships Bring Challenges
Many couples face these challenges at some point in the relationship, but some are just too hurt and afraid to reach out for help. Some may even feel that their relationship has been on autopilot for so long that if they tried to make changes it may cause even more problems.
Relationships Are Repairable
The fact is that relationships are very repairable as long as both partners are willing, but it is also a fact that it is very difficult to solve a problem with the same mindset that created it. The couples who don't get help with working through major challenges tend to try fixing their problems by doing more of what they did before, which didn't work in the first place, and they keep doing this until they are exhausted and too worn down to try any more. It's not that they didn't try hard enough or didn't care enough, it's just that they didn't realize the importance of a different perspective and mindset. This is what marriage counseling is designed to do - to help you look at your relationship from a different perspective and to help you learn to handle issues in a different way. A way that will connect you on a level where you will finally feel that your partner really understood you, a way that will let you feel closer to each other and feel that you are on the same side working together to build an even better marriage.
The Gottman Method
I offer relationship therapy that is rooted in the Gottman Method of marriage counseling. This approach to relationship work is one of the most effective modalities available today for helping couples reconnect and repair their relationships. The Gottman method is a research based, scientifically validated approach to help couples with relationship problems of any type - even with some of the toughest issues such as infidelity and addictions. It is based on over two decades of research in couples relationships, which revealed many counterintuitive findings about what really helps couples repair relationships, what is necessary in relationships, and what approaches may seem like good options but do not actually result in lasting change.
The Bottom Line
What this means for you is that you will not be wasting your time and effort on well-meaning but ineffective attempts to help your marriage - instead, you will benefit from the proven methods in Gottman Therapy, you will learn the skills needed for rebuilding your marriage, and you will experience meaningful and measurable positive changes in the quality of your relationship.
What You Can Expect
The Gottman method emphasizes the importance of a precise and very thorough assessment process which gives a 360 degree view of the relationship before attempting to work on any issues. The first three sessions are dedicated to this process: In the first session I will meet with you as a couple and we will talk about your history as individuals and as a couple, as well as about what is happening in your relationship now. Then, each partner will be asked complete an online assessment sometime before the second session.
The second session is split into two half sessions and I will meet with each partner individually. In the third session, we will discuss the combined results of the assessment and the previous sessions: We will discuss the present state of the relationship, the growth and strength areas of the relationship, as well as the recommended changes along with what implementing those changes will realistically take. At this point you and your partner can decide what you want to work toward and we can create a plan that can best help you get there. The work during the rest of our sessions will follow this plan and periodically we will evaluate the progress.
You can get more information about the Gottman Method through the Gottman Institute at https://www.gottman.com/about/the-gottman-method/. or you can just click the button below to check out this site. The institute was founded by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, whose contributions to the field of marriage counseling offer hope for even the most difficult marriage rebuilds.
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